For example, every time I take my five month old out in public, the first thing people like to say is “That baby is so beautiful, is she your baby?” like I would be carrying someone else’s baby on my hip while they chew on my new business suit. When I say “yes this is my baby.” the next question is “really?” when I say “yes really” they act like I’m still lying or something.
I guess I could explain a few things about the situation by showing you guys a few pictures. Here is one of me:

And here is a picture of my baby:

I personally think that there is no question about it and she looks just like me to me with the exception of the straight hair and lighter complexion (and the bigger ears), lol, but when we are in public, it is always assumed that I am either the babysitter or the nanny of a Hispanic or Italian baby depending on the neighborhood we are in at the time.
Once we were in our local grocery store where a white mother and her child once again spoke those words that I have grown to love to hate “Oh the baby is sooo cute, is she yours?” Once again I replied “ Yes she’s mine.” and as usual, the mother says “ Oh, okay” and then the two of them walk off. I then hear the child say “that’s not her baby. That baby is white.” then the mother says “maybe she is the stepmother or maybe the baby is adopted, anyway it goes it’s rude to question it”. Although I believe that adoption is one of the most beautiful and selfless things a person can do for another human being, it truly hurt my feelings when that mother and child assumed that she is not my daughter, only because of the tone of her skin. I guess this is one of the “hardships” of being a parent of a biracial child ( her father is Honduran and I am what we in the United States call a black or African American. More on that subject later) that all of the other parents talk about. Then I began to think, if it hurt me to have a few people around town call my parental status into question, how awful it must have felt for Mr. Jackson to have most of the entire world question his parental status of the children that he loves so much.
I personally believe that he is their biological father and I believe that he and his children’s facial features look a lot alike once you compare them side be side with his, “before the cosmetic surgery”, pictures. Here is a link to a site that does just that :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AEWCFDG7b2E
In conclusion, to those of you who have viewed the video and still believe that Mr. Jackson’s children were not born of his own seed ( like it is any of our business anyway) let me throw this out there. Just because a person is a sperm donor, it does not make that man a father. It is the person who loved and took care of all of the child’s emotional, mental, educational and physical needs that is the true father. If there are any doubts about whether or not Michael Jackson was an excellent father his own child said it best when she said “ Daddy was the best Daddy I have ever known.” I think that should put all speculation to rest.
looks can be deceptive and it has happened to me time and again. Therefore from now on I carefully examine before jumping to an instant conclusion
ReplyDeleteBetter be careful, all good looking things are not helpful.
ReplyDeleteWonderful post.
ReplyDeleteI'm apart of an interracial relationship and I've noticed from others that have biracial children that people will question a child's parentage if the child does not resemble the parent(s).
What I find funny about this is that the person would rather assume that you are the stepmother, or adopted the baby, but won't assume that since you clearly stated (twice) that the baby is yours, then the baby must be biracial? Doesn't that seem like the most logical choice?
But then people would have to acknowledge interracial relationships and that's another story...lol
I can't imagine how Michael Jackson must have felt to have the world question the parentage of his kids. Even if they weren't his biological kids so what? Like the saying goes: "Any male can have a baby, but it takes a MAN to be a father".